{"id":1845,"date":"2014-10-17T07:53:42","date_gmt":"2014-10-17T11:53:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/?p=1845"},"modified":"2014-10-17T07:53:42","modified_gmt":"2014-10-17T11:53:42","slug":"trust-the-me-first-attitude","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/?p=1845","title":{"rendered":"Trust &#038; the &#8220;Me First&#8221; Attitude"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/?attachment_id=1005\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-1005\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-1005\" src=\"http:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/TAATAW_LOGO_H_color-tagline-300x122.jpg\" alt=\"TAA_R2_EDIT-CS3\" width=\"300\" height=\"122\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"color: #181818;\"><strong><em>I don&#8217;t care what you think unless it is about me.<\/em> <\/strong>Kurt Cobain \u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p>The baggage we carry\u00a0over from childhood impacts the odds of being\u00a0trustworthy team members or leaders as adults.<\/p>\n<p>Who can recall the elementary school classmates who insisted on being:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>First in line<\/li>\n<li>First to raise their hand\u00a0(that was me)<\/li>\n<li>First at bat<\/li>\n<li>First piece of cake<\/li>\n<li>First to be picked for the team<\/li>\n<li>Last to share<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Baby Boomers, those of us born between 1946 and 1964 are known as the &#8220;Me&#8221; generation, narcissism\u00a0being our most\u00a0prominent feature.<\/p>\n<p>Many of us have carried our &#8220;Me first&#8221; perspective\u00a0into\u00a0adulthood, but unfortunately, this\u00a0narcissistic,\u00a0ego-driven attitude\u00a0does not go very far in building trust. In fact, according to this study,\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.bizcoachinfo.com\/archives\/13405\">narcissistic CEO&#8217;s do not make good leaders.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>As I&#8217;ve said in previous blog posts, what many are calling a &#8220;crisis of trust,&#8221; I see as a crisis of leadership. If organizational trust is the goal, the &#8220;We first&#8221; leader must assume the helm from his &#8220;Me first&#8221; colleague.<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Barbara Brooks Kimmel<\/strong>\u00a0is the Executive Director of\u00a0<a style=\"color: #4f81d8;\" href=\"http:\/\/trustacrossamerica.com\/index.shtml\">Trust Across America-Trust Around the World<\/a>\u00a0whose mission is to help organizations build trust. She is also the editor of the award winning\u00a0<a style=\"color: #4f81d8;\" href=\"http:\/\/trustacrossamerica.com\/order.shtml\">TRUST INC.<\/a>\u00a0book series. In 2012 Barbara was named \u201cOne of 25 Women Changing the World\u201d by Good Business International.<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"><a style=\"color: #4f81d8;\" href=\"http:\/\/trustacrossamerica.com\/cgi-bin\/nominations.cgi\"><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">Nominations are now being accepted<\/span><\/a>\u00a0<\/span>for Trust Across America-Trust Around the World\u2019s 5th annual Global Top Thought Leaders in Trustworthy Business.<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\"><a style=\"color: #4f81d8;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/?attachment_id=1233\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-1233\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"wp-image-1233 alignleft\" src=\"http:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/TrustInccover313-e1402235843856.jpg\" alt=\"Print\" width=\"141\" height=\"212\" \/><\/a><a style=\"color: #4f81d8;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/?attachment_id=1225\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-1225\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"wp-image-1225 alignleft\" src=\"http:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/ND-Trust-CEO-cvr-140602-ft-e1401989324478.jpg\" alt=\"ND Trust CEO cvr 140602-ft\" width=\"151\" height=\"212\" \/><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"wp-image-1826\" src=\"http:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/914Trust-front-Cover-206x300.jpg\" alt=\"914Trust front Cover\" width=\"151\" height=\"211\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0Coming Soon!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Should you wish\u00a0to communicate directly with Barbara, drop her a note at\u00a0<a class=\"autohyperlink\" style=\"color: #4f81d8;\" title=\"ma&#105;&#x6c;&#x74;&#x6f;:B&#97;&#x72;&#x62;&#x61;ra&#64;&#x74;&#x72;&#x75;sta&#99;&#x72;&#x6f;&#x73;sa&#109;&#x65;&#x72;&#x69;ca&#46;&#x63;&#x6f;&#x6d;\" href=\"&#109;a&#x69;l&#x74;o&#x3a;B&#x61;r&#x62;a&#x72;&#97;&#x40;&#116;r&#117;s&#x74;a&#x63;r&#x6f;s&#x73;a&#x6d;e&#x72;&#105;&#x63;&#97;.&#99;o&#x6d;\">&#x42;a&#x72;b&#x61;&#114;a&#x40;t&#x72;u&#x73;&#116;a&#x63;r&#x6f;&#115;s&#x61;m&#x65;r&#x69;&#99;a&#x2e;c&#x6f;&#109;<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Copyright \u00a9 2014, Next Decade, Inc.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-best-social-bookmark\"><ul class=\"socials\"><li class=\"oknotizie\"><a href=\"http:\/\/oknotizie.virgilio.it\/post.html.php?url=https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/?p=1845&title=Trust &#038; 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