{"id":4866,"date":"2020-08-25T08:10:31","date_gmt":"2020-08-25T12:10:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/?p=4866"},"modified":"2020-08-25T08:10:31","modified_gmt":"2020-08-25T12:10:31","slug":"do-apologies-fix-broken-trust","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/?p=4866","title":{"rendered":"Do Apologies Fix Broken Trust?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/?attachment_id=4225\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-4225\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"wp-image-4225 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/TAA_TrustAlliance_2018-Logo-R1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"99\" height=\"103\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/TAA_TrustAlliance_2018-Logo-R1.jpg 672w, https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/TAA_TrustAlliance_2018-Logo-R1-287x300.jpg 287w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 99px) 100vw, 99px\" \/><\/a>&#8220;Never ruin an apology with an excuse.&#8221;\u00a0<\/em> <\/strong>Benjamin Franklin<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Say you&#8217;re sorry.&#8221; As a child, how often did you hear those words from parents and teachers? While apologies become even more &#8220;complex&#8221; in adulthood, have you stopped to consider the role they play in trust repair?\u00a0\u00a0<span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">This week, as part of our Zoom Lunch &amp; Learn series seven members of our Trust Alliance convened to discuss the topic of apologies in a session called &#8220;I&#8217;m sorry&#8230;but.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div class=\"\"><strong>Prior to meeting, I provided the group with the following insights shared by one of our members:\u00a0<em>\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div class=\"\"><em>It&#8217;s been almost four decades since Johnson &amp; Johnson&#8217;s Tylenol crisis, and public affairs professionals have been fixated on the \u201capologize\u201d model.\u00a0 Whenever a company is attacked, they recommend that trust can be rebuilt only by an immediate apology. Yet there have been critics of this approach, most notably renowned crisis manager Eric Dezenhall.\u00a0 In his 2007 book Damage Control, subtitled \u201cWhat Everything You Know About Crisis Management is Wrong,\u201d Dezenhall argues that not all situations are the same, that not all apologies are the same, and that the costs and benefits of the apology must be carefully evaluated.<\/em><\/div>\n<div class=\"\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"\"><em>Through the lens of trust, the apology plays a particularly important role, which may be to restore, build or further undermine trust. The apology is no panacea that fixes broken trust; at best, it is one step in an ongoing process. \u00a0<\/em><\/div>\n<p>Our discussion extended beyond apologies at the organizational or corporate level. We reviewed interpersonal apologies as well.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The following are some of the key take aways:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>The purpose of an apology is to repair a damaged relationship, whether it is between two people or at the leadership\/ corporate level, and there must be a desire to do so.<\/li>\n<li>Apologies must have a unifying quality with no &#8220;conditions&#8221; or &#8220;buts.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>Authentic apologies must contain an acknowledgement of harm and a commitment to a behavioral change. (Example: A husband is caught cheating on his wife. The apology must go beyond, &#8220;I&#8217;m sorry for hurting you&#8221; to &#8220;I promise you I will never do it again.&#8221;)<\/li>\n<li>Apologies should not be confused with taking responsibility. (Example: Johnson &amp; Johnson followed their credo and took responsibility after the Tylenol crisis. They did not apologize.)<\/li>\n<li>Victims need validation more than an apology.<\/li>\n<li>Apologies are words. Trust is built through actions. A plan must be announced with specifics. Simply saying we \u201chope to regain your trust\u201d is worthless.<\/li>\n<li>Trust can be built only after lasting changes have been made.\u00a0Remember, actions always speak louder than words.<\/li>\n<li>Ethical actions not only reduce the need for apologies, they also raise awareness of the benefits of principled behavior. Incivility, sarcasm and humiliation have no place in relationships inside or outside the office. In fact, they are breeding grounds for reducing trust and increasing the odds of a crisis.<\/li>\n<li>Consider what is happening in the relationship that creates the need for an apology. What internal changes should be made to modify the dynamic and prevent future crises? Without an internal culture of responsibility and accountability, there WILL be crises and regardless of whether or not an apology is given, there will not be a change in behavior to correct things.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>A few additional thoughts the intersection of apologies and trust for leaders and organizations facing a crisis:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>While most companies have a mission or vision &#8220;statement&#8221;, quarterly reviews based on financial returns still rule the day. This creates the perfect storm for a crisis. Leaders then delegate the apology and trust repair &#8220;fix&#8221; to their corporate communications\/PR team, instead of taking ownership. Wells Fargo is the poster child for this approach which fails every time.<\/li>\n<li>Most business leaders are unaware of the independent variables or behaviors that create trust. If they don&#8217;t defer to PR, they defer to &#8220;legal&#8221; who are trained in risk, not trust.<\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">Spontaneous conversations about reputation rarely occur until reputation is in the ditch. Reputation management, like crisis management, like employee engagement are really PR terms rather than management terms. That\u2019s why they\u2019re not seriously a part of management\u2019s vocabulary. Trust is a management word. Integrity is a management word. Civility and decency aren\u2019t really management words.<\/span><\/li>\n<li>One of my favorite questions in these circumstances is,&#8221; what would your mother\u2019s say if they were in the room right now, after they slapped you in the head and told you that you were not the kid they raised.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>An attack on trust\/a crisis means that the organization performed below expectations of at least one of its stakeholders. An organization can have a crisis with one stakeholder that does not impact others. For example, HP had a governance issue that caused it to apologize to investors with plans for how it would be avoided in the future, but it did not register with customers.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div><strong>In conclusion, consider this:<\/strong><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Individuals, leaders and trustworthy organizations who are in the enviable position of having built trust over time, will be more easily forgiven for what may be viewed as a genuine or unavoidable mistake instead of an ethical lapse. This not only increases the chances of surviving future crises, it prevents the majority of those crises from happening at all.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div class=\"\">For more information on how to assess the level of trust in your organization and reduce those apology &#8220;moments&#8221; <a href=\"https:\/\/trustacrossamerica.com\/tap-into-trust.shtml\">Tap into Trust<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/trustacrossamerica.com\/trust-diagnostics.shtml\">access our simple survey tools<\/a>.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>___________________<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>To participate in future Lunch &amp; Learns, apply to join our vetted <a href=\"https:\/\/trustacrossamerica.com\/cgi-bin\/alliance.cgi\">Trust Alliance<\/a>.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Thank you to Bart Alexander, David Belden, Lea Brovedani, Charles Feltman, Nadine Hack, Jim Lukaszewski and Elliot Schreiber for your insights. Until next time!<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>_____________________<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><i>Barbara Brooks Kimmel\u00a0is the founder of\u00a0<\/i><a href=\"http:\/\/trustacrossamerica.com\/\"><span class=\"s8\"><i>Trust Across America-Trust Around the World<\/i><\/span><\/a><i>, whose mission is to help organizations build trust. Now in its 12th year, the program has developed two proprietary trust-evaluation tools, the latest is\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/trustacrossamerica.com\/trust-diagnostics.shtml\">AIM Towards Trust.<\/a>\u00a0She also runs the world largest global\u00a0<\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/trustacrossamerica.com\/cgi-bin\/alliance.cgi\"><span class=\"s8\"><i>Trust Alliance<\/i><\/span><\/a><i>\u00a0and is the editor of the award-winning\u00a0<\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/trustacrossamerica.com\/order.shtml\"><span class=\"s8\"><i>TRUST INC. book series<\/i><\/span><\/a><i>. Kimmel is a former consultant to McKinsey who has worked across multiple industries and with senior leadership. She holds a bachelor\u2019s in international affairs from Lafayette College and an MBA from Baruch.<\/i><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Copyright \u00a9 2020, Next Decade, Inc.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-best-social-bookmark\"><ul class=\"socials\"><li class=\"oknotizie\"><a href=\"http:\/\/oknotizie.virgilio.it\/post.html.php?url=https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/?p=4866&title=Do Apologies Fix Broken Trust?\" title=\"Share this on oknotizie\"> <\/a><\/li><li class=\"twitter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/twitter.com\/home?status=Do Apologies Fix Broken Trust? &raquo; https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/?p=4866\" title=\"Share this on twitter\"> <\/a><\/li><li class=\"delicious\"><a href=\"http:\/\/del.icio.us\/post?url=https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/?p=4866&title=Do Apologies Fix Broken Trust?\" title=\"Share this on del.icio.us\"> <\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Not all apologies are the same, and the costs and benefits of the apology must be carefully evaluated.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[450,45,404,420,415,426,390,409,437,447],"tags":[122,18,13,136,116,5,393],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4866"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4866"}],"version-history":[{"count":18,"href":"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4866\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5609,"href":"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4866\/revisions\/5609"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4866"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4866"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.trustacrossamerica.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4866"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}